Love and heart ache go hand and hand. Its a blessing to fall in love and depending on who you are a heart ache can mean many of things. Some go a life time with out experiencing love nor heart ache. As for me I have experienced both.
My experiences with both emotions were both roller coasters. There are so many emotions and thoughts its like you’re a different person.
I first fell in Love two years ago. Summer love. It was marvelous, nothing I had ever experienced before. I would have constant butter flys, the simplelist things were ten times better. A walk in the park became a Hawaii vacation experience.
All you think about is the other person, and you just cant wait till the next time you get to see him. Colors are brighter, food taste better, even the air smells better. It a joyous experience.
I personally felt like I was in a cloud. The moon and stars are just a hand reach away. Every day is a good day. You feel complete, and whole. You wonder how you could have ever lived a day with out this person in your life.
I still remember the day I fell apart. I remember the smell, a horrible smell its like sadness has sour odor that just seeps threw your pores.
You feel nauseas , your moments from throwing up because you have a sharp pain in your stomach that’s comparable to a punch. Your thoughts are racing threw your head wondering what went wrong.
You fee like your drowning, your own anxiety and panic is preventing you from breathing. You cant do anything but cry. How do you explain to your teachers you cant turn in your math homework. Its impossible to pick up the peaces let alone a pencil.
You wont sleep or eat, thinking rationally is out of the question. You feel like your going crazy when people look at you as if you should be over it a week later. Or when you star crying at your work in front of customers and strange woman start praying for you.
And all you hear from your friends is “are you ok?”
Do I look Ok?
Eyes blood shot because the tears wont stop flowing. And everyone has the same advice. “O maybe it wasn’t meant to be. Time will heal your wounds.”
But time doesn’t heal your wounds it may slow down the tears and there may be a day or so that you don’t think about the person but the wound is still there and very open.
You don’t want to hear that it was never meant to be. You want to get lied to and get told he will come back.
Eventually the pain goes away depending on how long the relationship is and intensity of it.
If you think that you can not go threw it alone and need to talk to someone on a personnel level. You can always go to a counselor. You can make an appointment to speak with a counselor at Linn Benton Community College. There are 5 counselors that are available at the Albany campus. These services are made available to everyone not just students
I spoke to Charles Madriage a counselor at LBCC. I asked him a few questions about this topic. "Is there a chemical imbalance when you go threw a break up?"
"There has been scientific proof that there is a chemical imbalance when you are in love, however there is not a change when you go threw a break up."
I asked his opinion about what gender handles a break up better?
"It's not about the gender but its about the support that you surround your self with. Breakups are hard and I believe there especially more difficult when your younger. When you don't really have your own identity, and you find an identity in someone else so when it doesn't work out it crushes you. You get a feeling of rejection."
I asked Sara Mayers,24 a Linn Benton student and friend how long it took her to get over her six year relationship. “Three years of us being apart is coming up next month and I can honestly say that he is now completely out of my heart.”
The best advice she told me was to just separate and completely disconnect your self from that person.
When I asked My roommate Jordanne Amerling, 20 about breaks ups her advice was more of a saying “Breakups are like a broken mirror sometimes you get hurt more trying to fix it.”
The best advice I can give someone who is going threw a break up is cut all possible contact with that person.
Take some zanex to help with the panic. Don’t go anywhere where he maybe. Change your number if you have to. Lock your cell phone up if you feel the itch to text him. Delete your myspace account.
And especially do not drink!!!! If you do you may risk loosing the rest of your dignity and the next thing you know your yelling at a Barbie who resembles your ex seconds before you burn it in a can.
The only other person who knew exactly what I was going threw is my ex. We eventually got on good terms and we have even spoke of the situation. The way he coped was surrounded himself with friends and family.
You don’t have to go threw it alone. Even though you feel alone and abandoned surrounding yourself with people who support you is the best thing you can do.
My experiences with both emotions were both roller coasters. There are so many emotions and thoughts its like you’re a different person.
I first fell in Love two years ago. Summer love. It was marvelous, nothing I had ever experienced before. I would have constant butter flys, the simplelist things were ten times better. A walk in the park became a Hawaii vacation experience.
All you think about is the other person, and you just cant wait till the next time you get to see him. Colors are brighter, food taste better, even the air smells better. It a joyous experience.
I personally felt like I was in a cloud. The moon and stars are just a hand reach away. Every day is a good day. You feel complete, and whole. You wonder how you could have ever lived a day with out this person in your life.
I still remember the day I fell apart. I remember the smell, a horrible smell its like sadness has sour odor that just seeps threw your pores.
You feel nauseas , your moments from throwing up because you have a sharp pain in your stomach that’s comparable to a punch. Your thoughts are racing threw your head wondering what went wrong.
You fee like your drowning, your own anxiety and panic is preventing you from breathing. You cant do anything but cry. How do you explain to your teachers you cant turn in your math homework. Its impossible to pick up the peaces let alone a pencil.
You wont sleep or eat, thinking rationally is out of the question. You feel like your going crazy when people look at you as if you should be over it a week later. Or when you star crying at your work in front of customers and strange woman start praying for you.
And all you hear from your friends is “are you ok?”
Do I look Ok?
Eyes blood shot because the tears wont stop flowing. And everyone has the same advice. “O maybe it wasn’t meant to be. Time will heal your wounds.”
But time doesn’t heal your wounds it may slow down the tears and there may be a day or so that you don’t think about the person but the wound is still there and very open.
You don’t want to hear that it was never meant to be. You want to get lied to and get told he will come back.
Eventually the pain goes away depending on how long the relationship is and intensity of it.
If you think that you can not go threw it alone and need to talk to someone on a personnel level. You can always go to a counselor. You can make an appointment to speak with a counselor at Linn Benton Community College. There are 5 counselors that are available at the Albany campus. These services are made available to everyone not just students
I spoke to Charles Madriage a counselor at LBCC. I asked him a few questions about this topic. "Is there a chemical imbalance when you go threw a break up?"
"There has been scientific proof that there is a chemical imbalance when you are in love, however there is not a change when you go threw a break up."
I asked his opinion about what gender handles a break up better?
"It's not about the gender but its about the support that you surround your self with. Breakups are hard and I believe there especially more difficult when your younger. When you don't really have your own identity, and you find an identity in someone else so when it doesn't work out it crushes you. You get a feeling of rejection."
I asked Sara Mayers,24 a Linn Benton student and friend how long it took her to get over her six year relationship. “Three years of us being apart is coming up next month and I can honestly say that he is now completely out of my heart.”
The best advice she told me was to just separate and completely disconnect your self from that person.
When I asked My roommate Jordanne Amerling, 20 about breaks ups her advice was more of a saying “Breakups are like a broken mirror sometimes you get hurt more trying to fix it.”
The best advice I can give someone who is going threw a break up is cut all possible contact with that person.
Take some zanex to help with the panic. Don’t go anywhere where he maybe. Change your number if you have to. Lock your cell phone up if you feel the itch to text him. Delete your myspace account.
And especially do not drink!!!! If you do you may risk loosing the rest of your dignity and the next thing you know your yelling at a Barbie who resembles your ex seconds before you burn it in a can.
The only other person who knew exactly what I was going threw is my ex. We eventually got on good terms and we have even spoke of the situation. The way he coped was surrounded himself with friends and family.
You don’t have to go threw it alone. Even though you feel alone and abandoned surrounding yourself with people who support you is the best thing you can do.
Photo credit: "Broken heart" By bored-now
Neiva, it must have been difficult to write some of this. Thanks for sharing some of your words of wisdom.
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